Dreaming & Inquiry Lead to the Forlorn
A couple of days ago, I woke up from a dream full of conflict with my brother. It was one of those dreams where things were off just enough to give it a surreal feel from the imagery, but the intersubjective feelings generated were historically very familiar.
As I pondered the dream throughout the day, I became aware of a rapprochement conflict that was being exploited to establish a position of power. It was fascinating to see an unconscious intelligence preying on another’s unconscious material to establish a position of dominance over the other.
As I was driving home, the notion of negative merging entered my mind and I could immediately feel the connection – the intersubjective emotional field of the dream was permeated by that low-grade sense of frustration that is a hallmark of negative merging.
With the sense of negative merging more forefront in my awareness, I was able to tease out more of the rapprochement conflict which led to a sense of – forlorn – which these days is associated with being sad and lonely due to isolation or desertion. The word forlorn derives from Middle English associated with the word – lose.
This led my inquiry to a place of interest around loss and desertion. For sure, a sense of isolation is part of the mix – as in more ambivalence around moving toward or away from.
It has also been interesting to observe how the “moody” feelings activated by all of this heighten my susceptibility to move toward others carrying their own negative merged state closer to the surface.
Another area of interest piqued by all of this is the need for merged support in general – whether negative or positive. Why do so many of us need others to be in agreement with?
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