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  • Working with the Enneagram as Stations of the Cross

    Working with the Enneagram as Stations of the Cross

    Mapping the Enneagram on Stations of the Cross

    I am using and adapting the notion of stations of the cross to discuss and illustrate a method of using prayer and meditation to explore the enneagrams of virtues and holy ideas.

    (Disclaimer: I am not, nor have I ever been a practicing Christian – in this lifetime.)

    To begin, let’s first discuss this diagram of the enneagram:

    3 components of the enneagram

    The enneagram and its three components above are simply two-dimensional representations of a metaphysical, multidimensional dynamic process or law of manifestation and evolution. We are looking at it and discussing it from one visual view point. If you look at the triangle from any of its points from a perpendicular perspective, you see a straight line. The same is true of the hexagon and circle.

    If you can see it with inner vision, it is like something out of Dr. Strange, though the computer generated graphics can’t capture the interdimensional aspects of it. It’s the same issue between classical physics and quantum physics.

    Dr Strange energy circles

    The cross, as a religious or metaphysical symbol, predates Christianity. It is often used to symbolize the intersection of the horizontal plane with the vertical plane. This is how I am using it in this article with the intersection representing the heart, the horizontal as the physical plane and the vertical as the spiritual dimension.

    Before I get into the prayer/meditation segment, let’s talk about prayer in general.

    The Alchemy of Metaphysical Prayer

    The world of the ego, the false self, is a world of deficiency and psychological/emotional need. Prayer from the false self most often originates from deficiency and need. It is usually oriented around “give me” like a child asking a parent for something.

    You don’t have to go any further than your nearest televangelist TV station to see this on display in neon. Those events remind me of what Moses saw when he came down off Mt. Sinai with the ten commandments – televangelists worshipping a golden jet.

    golden idol false prayer

    Prayer is a relatively young word in the lexicon of metaphysics, religion and spirituality showing up around 1300 and generally meaning to entreat, ask for, beg.

    The following points to a more spiritual transformative understanding of prayer’s intention:

    The ultimate goal of prayer is to help train a person to focus on divinity through philosophy and intellectual contemplation. The word “prayer” is a derivative of the Latin “precari”, which means “to beg”. The Hebrew equivalent “tefilah”, however, along with its root “pelel” or its reflexive “l’hitpallel”, means the act of self-analysis or self-evaluation. This approach is sometimes described as the person praying having a dialogue or conversation with God.

    The origins of contemplation: to mark out a space for observation.

    My relationship with, understanding of, and practice of prayer is one that reflects the relationship between ignorance and revelation. It is an entreaty from an open heart (the prayer space) for the truth. It is a longing to consciously be in Divine Presence. For me, prayer is often a contemplation from a specific orientation to deepen my understanding of self and reality (God).

    Here are four books that have influenced my relationship with prayer in the Christian sense of it:

    A Path of Alchemical Understanding

    The Diamond Approach, which I teach and study, is a path of alchemical understanding. It took me most of a lifetime to realize, we can’t change. I mean this in the deepest spiritual sense possible as it relates to who and what we think we are.

    “The self,” who/what we live our lives taking ourselves to be, cannot change itself, it can not enlighten itself. None of its actions, thoughts or feelings awaken it. But, in some sense, we can be changed.

    This changing is really nothing more than ideas we have evaporating – the rending of the veils. We can consciously participate in this alchemical process of understanding by attending to our present experience – peering into mystic.

    It is in this vein that the following prayers/contemplations are offered.

    contemplations stations of the cross

    Each contemplation is performed from the center of the cross, the heart. The contemplations are simply experiential openness and curiosity of the dynamic that exists between left-right juxtaposed enneagram points.

    As an example, the illustration above reflects a contemplation between the dynamism of love (9), omniscience (5) and origin (4) of the enneagram of holy ideas or right action (9), non-attachment (5) and equanimity (4) of the enneagram of virtues.

    You will need copies of Facets of Unity and The Enneagram of Passions and Virtues to do these prayers.

    Let’s use the example above for holy ideas.

    If I open Facets of Unity to point nine, I find three subtopics addressing the overall sense of love: The Heart of Truth, Nonconceptual Positivity and Absolute Goodness. I’m using the subtopics that speak to the sense of the holy idea, not the issues associated with it.

    I only need to read the first paragraph under the subtopics to get the felt sense of point 9 at the intersection on the cross, where I am praying/contemplating from.

    For point 5, the subtopics needed are: Unity in Multiplicity and Eyes of the Universe. Again, I just read the first paragraph to get a sense of extending into that realm from the heart.

    I repeat this for point 4: Inseparability from the Source and Levels of Source. Reading the paragraphs, I get the sense of the heart extending into that realm.

    The contemplation is merely holding all three in awareness at once, not as concepts but as points of dynamism interacting with each other – a dancing if you will.

    So, in this example I’m feeling into the dynamism of positivity/goodness dancing with unity/multiplicity and source. The heart is the fulcrum the extensions can be felt as the arms or legs. You can move and dance as part of the contemplation.

    The point is to feel the affect, the influence on who/what you usually take yourself to be. You’re not trying to accomplish anything, your not trying to get anywhere – you’re playing in the lap of reality – practicing presence, playing hide and seek with what you really are.

  • Integrity & Impeccability

    Integrity & Impeccability –
    Doing versus Being

    integrityI had a great conversation with my sister the other day around integrity. She has a couple of integrity issues and questions up with other people in her life. Integrity is important to her and she does not want someone’s lack of integrity to reflect on hers.

    I had sent her one of my favorite books on integrity – Integrity by Dr. Henry Cloud – a couple of months ago. She is still working her way through it and I think this was also part of what prompted the conversation. Henry Cloud talks a lot about character when he talks about integrity. He defines character as: the ability to meet the demand of reality. It’s not the talk, it’s the walk. How you live reveals your integrity.

    6 Aspects of Character

    1. The ability to connect authentically (which leads to trust)
    2. The ability to be oriented toward the truth which leads to finding and operating in reality)
    3. The ability to work in a way that gets results and finishes well (which leads to reaching goals, profits, or the mission)
    4. The ability to embrace, engage, and deal with the negative (which leads to ending problems, resolving them, or transforming them)
    5. The ability to be oriented toward growth (which leads to increase)
    6. The ability to be transcendent (which leads to enlargement of the bigger picture and oneself)

    Last night, I was in a conversation with a good friend and the topics of integrity and impeccability also came up. One thing I realized is that most people associate integrity and impeccability with a self-image or an ego ideal – we have our ideas about how to live with integrity and impeccability and these ideas are related to how we see ourselves or how we wish to be seen by others.

    Integrity comes from the Latin root integr which refers to “entire” or “whole.”

    From the perspective of true nature or soul or wholeness, having integrity would mean being whole, not divided. Integrity would not involve trying to live up to a self-image, ego ideal or expectation. Integrity would be the natural expression of the “whole” person. integrity and impeccability would be natural expressions of  “whole” person’s life – no doing needed. The walk and the talk would be integrated.

    Integrity & Impeccability

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  • Ego Ideal – Is There an Ideal Ego?

    Ego-idealOh, the ego ideal! What misery this little psychodynamic bug-a-boo causes us.

    What is ego ideal?

    Early on, Freud used both expressions ‘ideal ego‘ and ‘ego ideal’. Later, Freud (1921), (1923) abandoned the use of ‘ideal ego’ using the term ‘ego ideal’ which then became integrated into the term ‘super-ego’.

    The ego ideal is the standard which the superego uses to continually beat the crap out of us. We’re damned if we do and damned if we don’t! There is no pleasing the superego.

    What is really tragic about the situation is that most of us are being constantly tortured by the anti-libidinal force inherent in the superego while we try to effect an extreme makeover of themselves to become their ego ideal. All of this to finally get the love, acceptance, peace or understanding we deeply crave.

    The ego ideal is deeply intertwined with the punitive part of our consciousness. The righteous have used this in the name of God, country, and the common good to beat, batter, and bruise others for their own good.

    Taking the time to observe our minds and constant self-chatter reveals how much demeaning comparison is active in our daily lives.

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