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  • Working with the Enneagram as Stations of the Cross

    Working with the Enneagram as Stations of the Cross

    Mapping the Enneagram on Stations of the Cross

    I am using and adapting the notion of stations of the cross to discuss and illustrate a method of using prayer and meditation to explore the enneagrams of virtues and holy ideas.

    (Disclaimer: I am not, nor have I ever been a practicing Christian – in this lifetime.)

    To begin, let’s first discuss this diagram of the enneagram:

    3 components of the enneagram

    The enneagram and its three components above are simply two-dimensional representations of a metaphysical, multidimensional dynamic process or law of manifestation and evolution. We are looking at it and discussing it from one visual view point. If you look at the triangle from any of its points from a perpendicular perspective, you see a straight line. The same is true of the hexagon and circle.

    If you can see it with inner vision, it is like something out of Dr. Strange, though the computer generated graphics can’t capture the interdimensional aspects of it. It’s the same issue between classical physics and quantum physics.

    Dr Strange energy circles

    The cross, as a religious or metaphysical symbol, predates Christianity. It is often used to symbolize the intersection of the horizontal plane with the vertical plane. This is how I am using it in this article with the intersection representing the heart, the horizontal as the physical plane and the vertical as the spiritual dimension.

    Before I get into the prayer/meditation segment, let’s talk about prayer in general.

    The Alchemy of Metaphysical Prayer

    The world of the ego, the false self, is a world of deficiency and psychological/emotional need. Prayer from the false self most often originates from deficiency and need. It is usually oriented around “give me” like a child asking a parent for something.

    You don’t have to go any further than your nearest televangelist TV station to see this on display in neon. Those events remind me of what Moses saw when he came down off Mt. Sinai with the ten commandments – televangelists worshipping a golden jet.

    golden idol false prayer

    Prayer is a relatively young word in the lexicon of metaphysics, religion and spirituality showing up around 1300 and generally meaning to entreat, ask for, beg.

    The following points to a more spiritual transformative understanding of prayer’s intention:

    The ultimate goal of prayer is to help train a person to focus on divinity through philosophy and intellectual contemplation. The word “prayer” is a derivative of the Latin “precari”, which means “to beg”. The Hebrew equivalent “tefilah”, however, along with its root “pelel” or its reflexive “l’hitpallel”, means the act of self-analysis or self-evaluation. This approach is sometimes described as the person praying having a dialogue or conversation with God.

    The origins of contemplation: to mark out a space for observation.

    My relationship with, understanding of, and practice of prayer is one that reflects the relationship between ignorance and revelation. It is an entreaty from an open heart (the prayer space) for the truth. It is a longing to consciously be in Divine Presence. For me, prayer is often a contemplation from a specific orientation to deepen my understanding of self and reality (God).

    Here are four books that have influenced my relationship with prayer in the Christian sense of it:

    A Path of Alchemical Understanding

    The Diamond Approach, which I teach and study, is a path of alchemical understanding. It took me most of a lifetime to realize, we can’t change. I mean this in the deepest spiritual sense possible as it relates to who and what we think we are.

    “The self,” who/what we live our lives taking ourselves to be, cannot change itself, it can not enlighten itself. None of its actions, thoughts or feelings awaken it. But, in some sense, we can be changed.

    This changing is really nothing more than ideas we have evaporating – the rending of the veils. We can consciously participate in this alchemical process of understanding by attending to our present experience – peering into mystic.

    It is in this vein that the following prayers/contemplations are offered.

    contemplations stations of the cross

    Each contemplation is performed from the center of the cross, the heart. The contemplations are simply experiential openness and curiosity of the dynamic that exists between left-right juxtaposed enneagram points.

    As an example, the illustration above reflects a contemplation between the dynamism of love (9), omniscience (5) and origin (4) of the enneagram of holy ideas or right action (9), non-attachment (5) and equanimity (4) of the enneagram of virtues.

    You will need copies of Facets of Unity and The Enneagram of Passions and Virtues to do these prayers.

    Let’s use the example above for holy ideas.

    If I open Facets of Unity to point nine, I find three subtopics addressing the overall sense of love: The Heart of Truth, Nonconceptual Positivity and Absolute Goodness. I’m using the subtopics that speak to the sense of the holy idea, not the issues associated with it.

    I only need to read the first paragraph under the subtopics to get the felt sense of point 9 at the intersection on the cross, where I am praying/contemplating from.

    For point 5, the subtopics needed are: Unity in Multiplicity and Eyes of the Universe. Again, I just read the first paragraph to get a sense of extending into that realm from the heart.

    I repeat this for point 4: Inseparability from the Source and Levels of Source. Reading the paragraphs, I get the sense of the heart extending into that realm.

    The contemplation is merely holding all three in awareness at once, not as concepts but as points of dynamism interacting with each other – a dancing if you will.

    So, in this example I’m feeling into the dynamism of positivity/goodness dancing with unity/multiplicity and source. The heart is the fulcrum the extensions can be felt as the arms or legs. You can move and dance as part of the contemplation.

    The point is to feel the affect, the influence on who/what you usually take yourself to be. You’re not trying to accomplish anything, your not trying to get anywhere – you’re playing in the lap of reality – practicing presence, playing hide and seek with what you really are.

  • Do We Really Want to Know Ourselves?

    Do We Really Want to Know Ourselves?

    How little personality really wants to know


    “….don’t worry if, at the end of any day, you suddenly realize that you can’t remember a word I’ve said. That doesn’t matter. It’s the journey itself that’s going to change you.”
     Ishmael – by Daniel Quinn (A gorilla comments on the current state of affairs)

    It seems obvious – our attention is skewed by our enneagram fixation AND it functions in a manner to reinforce and perpetuate the fixation. When we are blind to so much, how can we ever hope to see? Our personality, ego structure, and false self always function with an agenda.

    This agenda, whether positive or negative, and the underlying motivation for it is habitual, unconscious, and insidious. But, we are addicted and though we protest otherwise – refuse to let go of the pain and suffering and story associated with it. The pain, the suffering and the story are inseparable from it – they are part and parcel of one manifest phenomenon– who we take ourselves to be.

     ….”I know of no such story,” I told him at last.
    “You mean you’ve never heard of it?”
    “That’s right.”
    …”That’s because there’s no need to hear of it. …Every one of you knows it by heart by the time you are six or seven. …And you hear it incessantly, because every medium of propaganda, every medium of education pours it out incessantly. And hearing it incessantly, you don’t listen to it. There’s no need to listen to it. It’s always there humming away in the background, so there’s no need to attend to it at all. In fact, you’ll find – at least initially – that it’s hard to attend to it.”   
            Ishmael

    The desire to actualize our potential; the longing for freedom and peace; the hunger for love and contentment arise from within the soul as an optimizing force which is quickly co-opted by the ego – incorporated into its agenda and activity for self-improvement. Improving the self is self-defeating – a point of appreciation I owe to Claudio Naranjo’s presentation of the enneagram.

    cOur understanding of self is a Gordian knot – the more we struggle with it, the tighter it gets. So, how does one unravel this knot? How can we help to align our exploration with the optimizing force and relax ego-activity? How can we avail ourselves of the wisdom of the enneagram without perpetuating the fixation?

    We need to get below the surface of the self – surface that includes all of those great characteristics and traits so wonderfully articulated in the enneagram of personality types. We need a crack or two in the shell of the self – for we have been existing for a long, long time as a bounded entity. When a bounded entity turns inward – that movement of attention is, at first, also a movement away from the true self – another conundrum on the path of self-improvement.

    What we need is to NOT do. Allowing our self to see the truth – our situation as it actually is – invites the optimizing force into our experience. Developing the capacity to be in full contact with our experience while not acting out the ego’s agenda – our story – is being in the service of the soul. (Appreciation for the work of A. H. Almaas)

    Our intent is not to do but to be. Our motivation is not self-improvement but freedom and authenticity. Our desire is not to define and explain our self, but to clarify the transparency of the soul. And – believe it or not – knowing your fixation can help – but, as usual, one must take the road less traveled.

    Wanting
    To be, to become, to know
    Is torture
    Sitting in the Night
    Being revealed
    Is the sweetest
    Satisfaction 
                              jh

    The Obvious

    The enneagram is a treasure-trove of insight and information for a self-improvement campaign. I mean, my God, we have your strengths and weaknesses, our high side and low side, our movements toward integration and disintegration. We have our existential issues, our chief feature, our passion, our delusion, our…well, you get the point – no need to write another book.

    personality-defenseBut how do we work with that information in a real way? Go where we don’t want to go – meaning let our attention go there – feel it fully and immediately. When the mind tells us – that makes no sense, when anxiety rises, when we notice places we avoid – we need to get a clue! The personality (ego), according to Freud, is basically a defense – the whole enchilada. It’s a collection of semi-successful ways in which we have learned to cope with life, to survive, to manage our affairs while increasing our pleasure and avoiding pain.

    Take one of your type’s favorite or dominant characteristics or traits and explore its opposite. Love strength? Give some attention to helplessness. Prefer being in control? Explore powerlessness.

    Here’s a way to explore this:

    Get a pen and paper. For 30 minutes answer this question with whatever comes to mind.

    “What’s right about not being ___________?”

    (Fill in this blank with something you avoid, something your personality has learned to compensate for – weak, needy, wrong, stupid, and etc.)

    Right now, some personalities have already rejected this exercise or are in the process of modifying it – say ten minutes instead of thirty. Well, there you have it – just how little it really wants to know about itself.

    In the process answering (be sure to write it all down), make the answers short. Be sincere, get the ego’s position paper on this issue. Anything over a few words is just more story that helps to avoid the full power of the exercise.

    To continue the exercise after answering the question for thirty minutes, explore your family history with what’s in the blank. See how family attitudes and values influenced you on this issue; how they supported you to be a certain way or coerced you to be another. Then, specifically examine your judgments around what is in the blank. Do this by feeling or observing how the judgment affects your level of energy or vitality.

    To complete the exercise: now that you have all of this insight and information, do nothing with it. Oh, and don’t do ‘nothing’ with it also. Observe how you react – your thoughts, feelings and actions. Don’t reject or stop anything – unless it is totally inappropriate, illegal, or dangerous to yourself or others. Remember, do not use this information to improve yourself or as a hammer to beat yourself up.

    The Unfamiliar

    The enneagram talks a lot about the three centers (head, heart, belly) and most people are dominant in one. Explore your least developed center. Observe how it is to function from this center. How does it affect you? What comes up in you – thoughts, feelings, motivations for action? Allow yourself to be a total klutz or ignoramus– no judgments needed here. Take this center out for a test drive.

    Explore your history with this center. Explore the judgments. Explore the personality’s position – How do you explain your position to others?

     “….you assembled this explanation like a mosaic from a million bits of information presented to you in various ways by others who share that explanation. You assembled it from the table talk of your parents, from cartoons you watched on television, from Sunday School lessons, from your textbooks and teachers, from news broadcasts, from movies, novels, sermons, plays newspapers and all the rest.” Ishmael

    Again, for the time being, avoid acting on the desire to become “a whole person” by integrating your three centers. Intrigue yourself for a while with how it has been for you to run on one or two cylinders instead of the three you came equipped with.

    The Unspoken

    This is more subtle and difficult. This is in the realm of pre-verbal experience and deals with knowing our personality at a very deep and uncomfortable level.

    Did you know that the foundation for who we take ourselves to be is mostly in place by age three – way before the capacity for abstract thought develops? This foundation exists in us as an energetic charge – a pattern of tensions and a comfort range of energies. When we start poking the light of attention into this area, we are very likely to get a rapid response along the lines of: “Well, this is just who I am. This is what I prefer. I like myself this way. And, etc.”

    An easy ways to gently rattle this cage to see just how sensitive you are to being outside of our energetic comfort zone (habit) is to change your driving habit. For a whole week slow down ten miles an hour or, depending on our personality type, speed up. If we’re not sure, experiment with both. It will be obvious within a day or so. Do it all day, every day and just observe yourself. Watch how you will attempt to create other situations and venues in your life to bring your energetic sense of self back into the comfort zone. Observe how irritable, antsy, and uncomfortable you can be over something so simple.

    (See Chapter 20 – The Pearl Beyond Price by A.H. Almaas for more insight into this)

    So there you go, a way to explore personality to see just how little it really wants to know about itself, but how it always has grand designs on how to improve itself – like that is really possible when it is so blind to reality.

    An important point to keep in mind when poking around into this personality and ego is to be gentle with yourself. Be kind, but steadfast – appreciate the fact that this bounded entity has been working its little heart out as best it can for survival and well-being. Treat it like the sensitive three-year old it is.

    The superego, the inner critic, the internal judge is another story all together. Learn how to kick its ass out of your experience. Otherwise, life will always remain a prison and we will always be confined to a type.

    personality types enneagramWhy resist
    The unraveling
    Of the great ruin
    Your life
    Has made of you
    God has sent His
    Wrecking-crew of angels
    To renovate
    The dog house you call home
    Into an exquisite palace
    Crystal fountains
    Jeweled domes
    Diamond spires
    And walls of Divine Transparency

    Why resist?
    This Architect’s Plan
    Always includes
    The razing of
    Existing structures
                                               jh

  • Enneagram Character Traits Continue to Surface

    Enneagram Point 8 Characteristics Still Smiling at Me

    enneagram point 8A couple of recent Enneagram conversations with new friends resulted in me observing that some of the point 8 character traits are still functioning in my psyche.

    My first encounter was with someone who had attended an online webinar with David Daniels (an enneagram person I haven’t seen in 20 years or so). My conversation partner thinks they may be an 8 on the enneagram. We managed to spend several hours chatting about most things under the sun without resorting to arm wrestling or shouting – proving once again that 8’s aren’t all aggression all of the time.

    The point 8 enneagram trait that was first to jump into my conscious awareness was – we’d rather have bad news than no news.

    Those 8’s – are they a riot or what? Eights have this connection with truth, but that doesn’t always play out in a good way as they can be prone to “my way or the highway” and “might makes right.” The significance of which can lead to distorting the “truth” to a relative position or perception. In my case, it was simply a matter of wanting clear communication.

    In my first conversation, I made several references to how important communication is to me, especially in regards to friendship. Being forthright is an art to cultivate. Just blurting things out won’t do, but it’s one place to start if that’s all we have going for us. Developing sensitivity, steadfastness and a non-judgmental attitude are  essential – and it seems, a life-long endeavor on my part – that sensitivity thing, what a challenge! I may actually have to be more present in life – what’s up with that?

    The second encounter with the enenagram occurred at Roast & Toast, a local coffee shop. I was sitting down at a table when I noticed a gent next to me, had a copy of Richard Rohr’s book on the Enneagram. I hadn’t seen that book in years and I said so to the gent. As it turns out, I was speaking to a local minister who is using the book to help with research on his Ph. D.

    We had a long chat which ultimately left me feeling very sad. The conversation opened around the enneagram and the power of silence for transformation ( perspective on this can be found in The Void). The conversation turned toward a recent incident in the church… What was sad, was how entrenched & fixated some of the people involved were… leading to another member having to resign a position. All of this in the name of God & morality.

    Aha, that 8 thing – wanting to pick up the sword in defense of the underdog and take off a few of those sanctimonious heads! Alas, all that practicing presence seems to have taken a toll on me as I simply felt sweet sadness…

    I found it quite interesting to find myself in 2 enneagram conversations in one week with total strangers. Perhaps stranger things will happen.

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  • The Narcissistic Wound

    The Price We Pay for Collusion – Narcissistic Wounding

    The normal course of life is like this: A wart grows on your nose and becomes so big that you finally can’t hide it from yourself or others. So you pretend to be someone else. And people, for one reason or another, quit mentioning the wart. Of course, you can’t mention their crossed-eyes, crooked teeth, ugly toes, and etc.

    We do not see the world for what it is, nor do we really see each other. (more…)

  • Violence & Ennegram Personality Types

    WAKE UP!
    To The Subtle Violence of Personality

    wake up to violenceA friend (point 8) commented to me once about “the bad rap eights get”. This was in response to an article on the enneagram of personality types that had appeared in a major metropolitan newspaper. The article quoted one person’s viewpoint that “eights are awful to be married to!” As an eight myself, I could relate to both my friend’s concern and the person quoted in the article because I too was married to an eight and it was the worst 18 months of my life!!! Those eights are they too much or what?

    I have attended a number of enneagram functions and have many friends and acquaintances within enneagram circles. Invariably, I hear comments about how eights are the worst. In studying the enneagram, I learned that no particular fixation is better or worse than any other. Why then do we continue to hear comments like this? (more…)

  • Superego Loves the Enneagram of Personality Types

    Comparing Mind – Junkyard Dog of a Critic

    The problem with in-laws
    Is the concern
    For their family values
    Not you
    The mind’s orientation
    Toward the soul
    Is similar ———– jh

    It’s impossible to judge a book by its cover if there is no comparing mind. If there is no reference point for comparison then, it’s damn difficult to find fault with anything.

    comparing mind junkyard dog superegoNow, a comparing mind can be a good thing when it’s functioning free of the “judging mind”;  “inner critic”; superego; or “junkyard dog”. It helps us to get home with a sack of oranges instead of a box of zucchini. But, unless we have engaged in specific work on this part of ourselves, it’s a given that it is running amok and causing us an enormous amount of suffering.

    If we really look into the situation, we find that this junkyard dog is just plain mean and nasty. It’s being driven by self-hatred and it’s using our libidinal energy (life force) against us. I wish it weren’t so, but the situation is even worse. (more…)

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