Tag: manners

  • When Manners and Consideration Collide

    Ladies, I Need Your Advice

    toilet-seat-up-downI had to pee – and once again faced the question I always face when an establishment has but one restroom for both sexes – Do I leave the seat up or not?

    Now this may not be a dilemma to many, but to me it continues to be an issue. I was raised in a military family that had a few rules. My mother’s rules often carried more severe consequences than “the colonel’s” – AND one of mom’s rules was – PUT THE TOILET SEAT DOWN!

    I have been successfully conditioned and have developed the ability to balance on one foot while dancing (because I have to pee so badly) and raising the toilet seat with the edge of my shoe. The same talent (without the dancing) serves me when lowering the seat.

    I know, many of you will say why not use some TP to raise and lower the seat? Well, you’ve seen the condition of some of those seats – would you touch them with a ten-foot pole? I rest my case and therein lies my dilemma.

    Do I lower a seat like that and obey my conditioning and manners or do I leave it up so the next 10 guys that come into pee that don’t raise the seat don’t leave it a mess for the next poor lass that has to endure the consequences of some near-sighted splash-and-dash nincompoop?

    I have been erring on the side of consideration (I think) over conditioning, but I am willing to go with the flow (so to speak). Ladies, if you will – what’s the proper course of action – other than spending the rest of my life steam cleaning restrooms?

    Leave a comment to give me guidance

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  • No Problem is the Problem

    If There’s No Problem, Why are You Saying So?

    I’m in a restaurant and ask the wait-person for something. When it’s delivered, I say – thank you. The wait-person’s response – No Problem.

    I’m in the coffee shop for my morning cup. When it arrives – same routine. Thank You. No Problem.

    I’m in the electronics store. A sales associate helps me with some information – thank you – no problem.

    What’s up this no-problem response?

    What ever happened to – My Pleasure?

    When I ask a waiter, a sales associate or a business owner for assistance, I don’t expect it to be a problem for them to provide the service which they are being paid to provide.

    No problem is one of those habitual, unconscious responses that on the surface seems positive, but really carries a subtle negative association in the mind.

    No problem??? Is it a problem serving me? Is it a problem getting me the information I need to purchase a new laptop?

    On the other hand, when I ask for the Dijon mustard and the wait-person provides it with a – my pleasure – I feel like my experience is a personal concern of this person.  I feel welcomed, seen and considered.

    No problem – can leave me wondering.

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